11. Pastor Gong Mingpeng used double-dealing tactics to conceal the truth.
1) When Pastor Gong Mingpeng was with my wife, he would praise her for her rapid spiritual progress. He agreed to assign her to serve Communion and other services, and he expressed affirmation towards her. He would read the Bible and pray with my wife and a few others every week, maintaining a very good personal relationship.
2) This led my wife to feel validated and on the “right” spiritual path, unaware that she had seriously violated her moral conscience and gone too far.
3) When other pastor inquired about my family’s affairs, Pastor Gong Mingpeng concealed his involvement, using a two-faced approach to cover up the situation, saying, “My wife will be difficult to give an account before God, and he can’t do anything.”
4) When I privately asked him to admit his mistakes, correct them, eliminate the damaging effects, and stop misleading my wife, he said: He have no obligation to help me.
5) When I reported him to his church, he said: He can’t change my wife, and there’s nothing he can do. He presented himself as a helper and a spiritual figure. But he concealed what he had said to other pastors and to me.
6) Pastor Gong Mingpeng completely played a double-faced lie to cover up the situation.
He clearly knew: My family was pushed toward disaster by him, and my wife was misled by him to this point, yet he presented himself as a helper.
If he had admitted his mistakes and corrected them during counseling in 2017, the subsequent disasters in my family would never have occurred.
If he had acknowledged his mistakes in the following years, misleading my wife by confusing right and wrong, she wouldn’t have been misled to this point, unable to turn back. My family wouldn’t have been so wronged and destroyed.
12. Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife have joined forces to blame our family’s internal problems for the inability to resolve our problems.
1) My wife publicly emphasized her hatred toward me and my mother, and her insistence that our family’s problems are unsolvable.
2) Pastor Gong Mingpeng claimed that my family’s problems couldn’t be solved because my wife was so resentful; he attributed the inability to resolve them to problems within my family.
4) But the truth is: If Pastor Gong Mingpeng had earlier admitted his mistake of confusing right and wrong and misleading my wife, and had allowed our family to return to true principles and a normal external environment, our family’s problems would have been resolved long ago.
13. My wife was the one who was causing trouble, while Pastor Gong Mingpeng was misleading and conveying affirmation behind the scenes, working together to bring the destroy to my family.
1) From 2020 to 2024, my wife engaged in serious immoral behavior for several years, destroying my family (as described above).
2) During this period, Pastor Gong Mingpeng held weekly Bible study and prayer with my wife and several others, expressing affirmation towards her, praising her for her rapid spiritual progress, and arranging Communion and other services.
3) This created a situation that was working together to destroy my family: my wife was the one who was causing trouble and destroy, while Pastor Gong Mingpeng was misleading and conveying affirmation behind the scenes.
14. My family never had the opportunity to return to true truth and a normal external environment to resolve our issue, and was instead destroyed by injustice.
1) During counseling in 2017, Pastor Gong misrepresented the truth about my family’s situation, distorting right and wrong and portraying it as an injustice. This led my family astray from the correct path of resolving our problems and pushed us into disaster.
2) In the years that followed, he refused to admit his mistake or correct it, allowing the distortion of right and wrong and the destruction to continue. He also continued to mislead and manipulate my wife, pushing our family into even greater disaster, ultimately leading to our complete destruction.
3) My family never had the opportunity to return to true truth and a normal external environment to resolve our issues, and was instead destroyed by injustice.
15. Pastor Gong Mingpeng deliberately refused to follow the correct path to resolve the problem, resulting in a deadlock and destruction for my family.
1) (As previously mentioned), the path to resolution for my family was clear: Pastor Gong Mingpeng “first” admitted his mistake of misleading my wife and misleading her, corrected it, stopped misleading and manipulating her, and allowed our family to return to true principles and a normal external environment to resolve the problem.
2) However, he deliberately refused to follow this correct path, resulting in my family being unable to resolve the problem and being stuck, unable to resolve the problem, and marital strife, ultimately destroying my family.
16. Pastor Gong Mingpeng passed on religious practices and lies to my wife, misleading her into believing she was following him on a spiritual path.
1) Pastor Gong Mingpeng, knowing full well that his refusal to admit his mistakes and continued misleading practices had caused great damage to my family, still appeared as the main speaker at numerous evangelical conferences and spiritual retreats, projecting a spiritual air.
2) For several years, he spent every week with my wife and a few others reading the Bible, praying, and discussing faith, displaying a spiritual air.
3) My wife felt that she and Pastor Gong Mingpeng frequently read the Bible, prayed, and ministered together, upholding the same doctrines and heading in the same direction. As a result, she was misled by him to the point of seriously violating her moral conscience without realizing it. He also passed on these lies and religious practices to my wife.
17. Pastor Gong Mingpeng created an environment and atmosphere that made it difficult for my family to escape his misleading control over my wife and his destructive influence on our family.
1) Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife formed a “community of interests,” colluding in lies and covering up the incident. Neither Pastor Gong Mingpeng nor my wife admitted their mistakes. Pastor Gong conveyed a positive attitude to my wife, she listened to him very much and Pastor Gong maintained a very good personal relationship with her.
2) Furthermore, Pastor Gong’s fame and outwardly religious demeanor made my wife very obedient to him. Pastor Gong and my wife and several others read the Bible and prayed together every week. This made it very difficult for my family to escape his misleading control over my wife.
3) The influence of those around me who echoed Pastor Gong Mingpeng created a misleading and distorted collective force around my wife, making it difficult to escape:
From 2020 to 2024, the person who read the Bible and prayed with my wife daily was one of the few people with whom Pastor Gong Mingpeng read the Bible and prayed weekly, and they echoed Pastor Gong’s statements.
Some people in Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s church deliberately distorted the situation: it was clearly my wife who was controlling me financially, but they claimed she was more capable of managing money; it was clearly Pastor Gong Mingpeng who was misleading and manipulating her, but they claimed that “even a judge cannot judge family affairs.”
4) All of this combined made it difficult for my family to escape Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s misleading control of my wife and his destructive influence on our family. Even I tried to take my wife to other churches and pastor-organized events to let my wife stay away him, but can’t make it.
18. To cover up his own problems, Pastor Gong Mingpeng went so far as to destroy my family.
1) If Pastor Gong Mingpeng had told my wife at any time during these years that he had confused right and wrong and misled her, and then corrected the misleading statements, my wife would not have continued to follow him in his mistakes, and our family would not have been destroyed.
2) This was just a false spiritual face-saving issue for him, but he was willing to sacrifice my family to cover up his own problems.
3) Pastor Gong Mingpeng should have admitted his mistakes, corrected them, and eliminated the damaging effects; instead, he misled and manipulated my wife, causing us to fight and destroy our family.
19. It’s not that my family’s problems are unsolvable; it’s that Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife are colluding to make them unsolvable.
1) The solution to my family’s problems is obvious: Gong Mingpeng admits his misconduct and misleading actions, stops his misleading manipulation, and uses the “right” approach to correct the ways he misled my wife. Only then will my wife admit her mistakes. Only when our family returns to true principles and a normal external environment can our problems be resolved.
2) However, because Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife had both seriously violated their moral conscience, they refused to admit their mistakes and instead lied and covered up the situation. They deliberately refused to follow the correct path to help my family resolve the problem, leaving my family trapped in suffering and repeatedly destroyed.
3) It’s not that my family’s problems are unsolvable; it’s that Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife, working together, are deliberately preventing them from being resolved.
20. Pastor Gong Mingpeng trapped my family in a dead end, a “two dead option choices” situation, I had no choice but to choose divorce..
1) Pastor Gong Mingpeng trapped my family on a fundamental level, focusing on key issues, such as:
• He deliberately perpetuated my wife’s destructive behavior in my family, deliberately refusing to guide her in a positive direction and instead exerting pressure in the opposite direction.
• My wife was the one who caused the destruction, while he misled and manipulated her from behind, allowing the disaster to “automatically” occur in my family.
• He collaborated with my wife to lie and cover up the destruction, ultimately trapping my family and preventing us from finding a solution.
• He deliberately refused to follow the correct path to solving the problem, creating and maintaining a misleading atmosphere around my wife.
• He deliberately misled and manipulated my wife, creating a community of interests through lies and cover-ups, with those around him agreeing to him and forming a group power structure.
2) Pastor Gong Mingpeng caused the destruction through my wife’s “hands” and external circumstances, such as:
• He deliberately failed to correct the distorted notion of “my mother moving out of my home,” deliberately misleading and manipulating my wife, allowing the destruction to continue, causing me to… My wife and I are at odds over fundamental principles and conscience, and my wife’s destructive actions.
• He created an external environment that misled my wife and made our family’s problems unresolved, causing us to fight each other in our unresolved situation. This was destined to stagnate and destroy our family, forcing us into repeated separations and divorces, completely ruining our entire family.
3) From 2020 to 2024, Pastor Gong continuously trapped my family in this dead end, a “two-choice” situation: divorce means death; not divorce, and being trapped and destroyed by him is also death. This forced me into the choice of divorce.