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2017 Marriage Counseling: The “Starting Point” for My Family’s Unjust Destruction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Distortion of Truth During Counseling<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In 2017, my wife and I attended marriage counseling with Pastor Gong Mingpeng. Regarding the issues of “my mother being forced to move out of our home and renting an apartment” and “my wife transferring hundreds of thousands of yuan in mortgage loans to her own name,” Pastor Gong Mingpeng used “biblical principles” distorted the truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n During the counseling, Pastor Gong Mingpeng said, “My problems are bigger than my wife’s,” “I don’t prioritize our marital relationship,” and “I caused my wife to transfer the money.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is a complete distortion of the truth and an injustice. Under the biblical principle of “husband and wife as one body, leaving their parents, with the spousal relationship taking precedence,” it’s turned into “I violated a higher spiritual principle,” making my problem even bigger. The responsibility originally lay with my wife, yet it was attributed to me, justifying her actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The “cause” of my mother moving out of our home wasn’t a bad mother-in-law\/daughter-in-law relationship; in fact, my wife and mother have had a very good relationship for over ten years. The “cause” was that my wife, in order to achieve her goal of “using my mother’s retirement money to buy a house,” artificially created the issue of “my mother moving out of our home.” I felt this violated my conscience, which led to arguments between my wife and me, escalating step by step to this point. Throughout the entire process, I have been tolerant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. The Destructive Consequences<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I repeatedly asked Pastor Gong to correct his mistakes, but he refused to admit his errors or make any changes. Months of marriage counseling were conducted under this distorted logic, turning what was initially a simple problem into an insurmountable one, pushing my family in the exact opposite direction of resolution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The direct, disastrous consequences were: the arguments about “my mom moved out of our house” were twisted, and the blame was placed on me, leaving me in a very guilty position; my wife’s actions were rationalized, and she didn’t have to admit her mistakes; my wife controlled the money, preventing me from knowing anything, yet felt perfectly justified.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even after the counseling ended, my wife’s practice of “controlling the money, preventing me from knowing anything, yet feeling perfectly justified” continued in church environment. I felt controlled financially, and our marriage was constantly filled with arguments about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. If Pastor Gong had admitted his mistakes and corrected them then, the subsequent disasters in my family would never have happened.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If Pastor Gong had admitted his mistakes and corrected them then, according to true reasoning and within the church environment, sooner or later the logical outcome would have been: my wife would have apologized to my mother; my wife would have transferred the money back to our joint account; and the subsequent disasters in my family would never have occurred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The relationship between my mother and my wife would have been very easy to repair at that time, because they had a very good relationship for over ten years, and until the end of 2018, my wife frequently visited my mother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, because Pastor Gong applied “biblical principles” and distorted the truth, he refused to admit his mistakes and correct them in order to maintain his “spiritual face.” And this distorted truth was in my wife’s favor, supported by the pastor and the “so-called” biblical principles. Because they were both wrong together, neither of them was willing to admit their mistakes and correct them afterwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n From then on, this “distorted truth” and my wife’s “control over money and prevent me from knowing” while feeling “at ease” in the church environment continued for a long time, causing the problem to continue to ferment. The couple argued and quarreled over this, and in addition, his continued misleading of my wife in the following years and their collusion to cover it up ultimately led to an even greater family disaster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Root Cause of My Family’s Destruction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. The Root Cause of My Family’s Destruction<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong, knowing he was distorting the truth and destroying my family and misleading my wife, refused to admit his mistakes or correct them, continuing this practice for several years, ultimately destroying my family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong and my wife jointly block our path to resolving our problems: Pastor Gong need “first” admitted and corrected his mistakes\uff0c then, my wife could do so; Then, could our family embark on the path to resolving our problems. However, because they were both wrong, neither admitted their mistakes and they cover them up the truth together. As a result, my family is stuck on the path to solving the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong used extremely destructive methods to trap my family in an environment where we couldn’t resolve our problems, causing my wife and I to fight each other, while he concealed the truth to the outside world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. A Brief Description of the Destructive Process<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Starting with marriage counseling in 2017, Pastor Gong distorted the truth and misled us, leading our family down a path completely opposite to resolving our problems, towards disaster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the following years, knowing full well the damage he had caused to my family and the misleading of my wife, he refused to admit his mistakes or correct them for the sake of his reputation, continuing to conceal and cover up the truth, allowing the damage and misleading to continue, and further misleading my wife. Meanwhile, to rationalize herself under Pastor Gong’s distorted doctrines, my wife fabricated a “false reason” that why my mother moved out of our home, going further and further astray.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the same time, Pastor Gong not only refused to admit his mistakes or correct them, but also conveyed an affirmative attitude of “spiritual growth” to my wife, continuously misleading her. My wife felt affirmed by the pastor, to the point that she seriously violated her conscience and destroyed her family, yet believed that she was on the right spiritual path by following Pastor Gong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As Pastor Gong’s refusal to admit his mistakes and correct them continued, and the damage he caused to my family increased, it became clear that he and my wife were both wrong, both having seriously violated their conscience. They then jointly cover up the truth, attributing the destruction of my family to our own problems, and rationalizing their respective actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s Extremely Destructive Practices<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n From 2020 to 2024, Pastor Gong’s actions were at their worst, causing the most damage to my family: He misled and manipulated my wife, exerting force in the opposite direction; while my wife was causing destruction, he secretly promoted a positive attitude of “spiritual growth”; he deliberately not guiding my wife in a positive direction, allowing disaster to “automatically” occur in our family; he artificially created obstacles, making it impossible for our family’s problems to be resolved; no matter how much I tolerated and tried, he trapped my family in unsolvable suffering, repeatedly destroying them, forcing me to choose divorce; yet he used a “two-faced” approach to cover it up to the outside world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Until the very end, he preferred to completely destroy my family in order to cover up the truth, rationalize his own actions, not let his issue to be relealed<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. A path to resolving our family’s problem has always existed, but Pastor Gong has deliberately blocked it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A path to resolving our family’s problem has always existed: Pastor Gong must first admit his mistake of distorting the truth during his 2017 counseling session, and his continued misleading of my wife over the following years, and then correct his misleading of my wife using “correct” methods. He must stop his collusion to cover up and destroy our relationship; only then could my wife admit her mistakes and correct them, and only then could our family embark on a path to resolving the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The problem is: if Pastor Gong admits his mistakes and corrects them, it will expose the “moral problem” that he knew all along that he had caused the distortion of the truth, the destruction and misleading, yet deliberately concealed and covered it up, allowing the misleading and destruction to continue, continuously misleading and manipulating my wife, ultimately destroying our family’s injustice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To cover up his own problems, he deliberately avoids the path of “he admitting his mistakes and correcting them, allowing our family to resolve the problem,” instead exploiting my wife’s unwillingness to admit her mistakes, misleading and manipulating her, colluding to cover up the problem, and working in the opposite direction, preventing our family from resolving the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My wife’s willing of covering up the truth and justifying herself is highly aligned with his. Even if it means completely destroying my family, both of them are willing to cooperate to cover up the truth, which has blocked all avenues for my family to resolve the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n Examples of Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s Destructive Practices<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. Background:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n From 2019 to 2024, my wife consistently engaged in acts that severely violated her conscience and destroyed our family: she prevented my mother from coming to our home, transferred control of our assets to her own name without my knowledge, and frequently verbally abused my mother and me, telling us we “deserve to hell.” <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whenever I tried to stop her, she threatened separation and divorce. On the one hand, our child had already suffered greatly, and my mother had been mentally unstable for over six months; I didn’t want a divorce to actually happen and cause even greater damage. On the other hand, I didn’t want our family to be so unjustly destroyed by Pastor Gong and my wife; therefore, I repeatedly tolerated her actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n During these same years, my wife learned Bible and praying with Pastor Gong Mingpeng every week with several others, attending small group meetings together, and participating in ministries at Pastor Gong’s church on many Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n During these years, Pastor Gong Mingpeng was aware of these circumstances, but he neither admitted his mistakes and corrected his distorted and misleading, nor did he stop my wife’s actions. Instead, he praised her for her “rapid spiritual progress,” using their close personal relationship to convey positive messages to her and arrange many ministries for her. This led my wife to feel affirmed by him, to feel quite spiritual, and to feel she was on the right path. Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s actions were completely misleading and counterproductive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. Pastor Gong’s destructive practice #1<\/strong> — He trapped my family in a “dead result\u201d, no matter how much I tolerated or tried<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Over the past few years, if I had stopped my wife’s destructive actions: our family would have entered a state of separation and divorce, and our family would have been destroyed; Pastor Gong Mingpeng continued to read Bibles, pray, and serve with my wife every week, conveying positive attitudes towards her, praising her rapid spiritual progress, maintaining a very good relationship, and arranging many ministries for her. My wife felt affirmed by Pastor Gong and felt quite spiritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If I tolerated it: my family would continue to be destroyed by my wife’s destructive actions, and our family would remain in a state of destruction; Pastor Gong Mingpeng continued to read Bibles, pray, and serve with my wife every week, conveying positive attitudes towards her, praising her rapid spiritual progress, maintaining a very good relationship, and arranging many ministries for her. My wife felt affirmed by Pastor Gong and felt quite spiritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s actions have created an “external environment” that is trapping and destroying my family. No matter how much I tolerate and try, it’s useless; the final result is that my family is trapped in a “two-choice” dead end: divorce means death; not divorcing, being trapped in suffering and destroyed, also means death.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The reason behind Pastor Gong’s actions is that if he wants to stop my wife’s terrible behavior towards my mother and regarding money, he must first admit his mistake of distorting the truth in his 2017 ministry, and his subsequent failure to admit and correct his mistakes, continuing to mislead my wife. However, to cover up his own problems, he doesn’t truly stop my wife’s destructive behavior, nor does he admit his own mistakes, continuing to convey a positive attitude towards my wife, appearing as if it’s none of his business. This has trapped my family in an unsolvable and destructive situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. Pastor Gong’s destructive practice #2 — Allowing Disaster to “Automatically” Occur in My Family\uff0cthe reason behind that is to Prevent His wrongdoing from Being E<\/em>xposed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If my wife were with any “normal” pastor, that pastor would have logically and effectively guided her towards positive change and stopped her severely morally reprehensible and destructive behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong and my wife had a very good relationship, and my wife was very obedient to him. It would have been very easy for him to stop her destructive behavior; however, he allowed her to continue her severely morally reprehensible and destructive behavior for several years, allowing disaster to “automatically” occur in my family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the same time, he read Bibles, prayed, and served with my wife every week, conveying positive attitudes to her, praising her rapid spiritual progress, maintaining a very good relationship, and arranging many ministry activities for her. My wife felt affirmed by Pastor Gong and felt quite spiritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The reason behind Pastor Gong’s actions was that if he wanted to stop my wife’s egregious behavior, he would “first” have to admit his own mistakes of distorting the truth and continuously misleading my wife, which would expose his serious problems. However, to cover it up, he refused to admit his own mistakes or truly stop my wife’s actions, allowing the disaster to “automatically” occur in our family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 4. Pastor Gong’s destructive practice #3 — <\/em> Pastor Gong used a “two-faced” approach to conceal the truth, rationalizing his and my wife’s actions.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n When Pastor Gong Mingpeng was with my wife, he would praise her rapid spiritual progress, arrange many ministries for her, and convey a positive attitude towards her. He read Bible and praying with my wife together every week, maintaining a very good personal relationship, thus rationalizing my wife within his church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When other pastors inquired about our family’s affairs, Pastor Gong Mingpeng concealed his involvement, using a “two-faced” approach to lie and cover it up by saying: “My wife has serious problem in front of God.” This rationalized his own actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I privately asked him to admit his mistakes, correct his behavior, eliminate the destructive influence, and stop misleading my wife, he said: “I have no obligation to help you.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I reported him to his church, he said: “He can’t change my wife, and he can’t do anything.” He presented himself as a helper and a spiritual figure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong Mingpeng is completely lying and covering up his actions using a two-faced approach. He clearly knows that he has pushed my family towards disaster, and that my wife has been misled to this point by him. If he admits his mistakes, corrects himself, and stops misleading my wife, she wouldn’t continue to collude with him to cover up and distort the truth, yet still feel she’s on the “right” path, and our family wouldn’t be so unjustly destroyed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 5. Pastor Gong’s destructive practice #4 — <\/em> Creating an environment and group influence that makes it difficult for my wife to escape his misleading manipulation, and hinders external help.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife have formed a “community of interest”\uff0c joint together to lie and cover up their actions. Neither Pastor Gong nor my wife admits his mistakes. Coupled with Pastor Gong’s reputation and his outwardly displayed spiritual demeanor, and his weekly Bible reading and prayer sessions with my wife and a few others, it’s extremely difficult for my wife to escape his misleading manipulation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n From 2020 to 2024, the people who read Bibles and prayed with my wife daily were among the few people Pastor Gong Mingpeng and my wife prayed with weekly, echoing Pastor Gong’s statements and influence. Their daily Bible reading and prayer together revealed our shared commitment to the spiritual path.<\/p>\n\n\n\n People in Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s church echoed his authoritarian claims, some deliberately distorting the truth: It’s clearly my wife who controls me financially, yet they claim she’s better at managing money; it’s Pastor Gong Mingpeng who has created this distortion of facts, refused to admit his mistakes, and consistently misled and manipulated my wife, causing immense damage to our family, yet they claim “even a wise judge can’t settle family disputes,” and “I’m attacking God’s servant.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n Furthermore, Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s outwardly presented “correct faith,” coupled with his high-ranking position, led my wife to believe she was on the “right” path with him. Combined with her own unwillingness to admit wrongdoing, this made it very difficult for my wife to escape his misleading control, and external help became scarce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n For more details on Pastor Gong Mingpeng’s destructive actions and the facts surrounding them, please see the detailed account at www.truth-faith.org<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" 2017 Marriage Counseling: The “Starting Point” for My Family’s Unjust Destruction 1. Distortion of Truth During Counseling In 2017, my wife and I attended marriage counseling with Pastor Gong Mingpeng. 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